I’m a dyed-in-the-wool introvert. I’ve often described myself as the person at a neighborhood dinner party that prefers to spend the evening with the family dog. But I’m also an entrepreneur. I enjoy building businesses from the ground up. I love the pace, the excitement and the decision making required to make a start-up successful.
In late 2016 I was struggling a bit. Life was moving along OK, but I felt like I wasn’t doing anything productive or creative. Things were just too mundane, I wasn’t learning anything or challenging myself in any way. I was just going through the motions.
Earlier this month was the 50th anniversary of the Loving v Virginia US Supreme Court decision that struck down laws against interracial marriage in the United States. While this landmark decision didn’t affect most couples in this country, it ended up being very important to me. I’m from the south and I’ve been in an interracial relationship for almost 20 years and married for 16 of them.
I knew very early on that I was an introvert. Of course I didn’t know that’s what it was called back then; I doubt many people did. As a kid, I was simply referred to as “quiet” or “shy”. I was just as happy being alone in my room with a book as I was outside playing with my friends. Shy? You bet; painfully so at times, especially around girls. (I can’t remember the last girlfriend I had that didn’t have to make the first move. And that includes my current wife). But as Susan Cain writes in her book, “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking“, shy and introverted are not necessarily the same, and it is important that we recognize the distinctions.
There are plenty of blog posts and articles on the internet with suggestions of items to include in your morning routine. I read quite a few of them when I first decided to establish a routine myself about six months ago. I incorporated many of the recommendations I found into my morning routine, and now it is an important and productive aspect to my daily life. Yet many of these posts will give you suggestions on what you SHOULD include as part of your routine. To me, that seemed a little odd. Everyone’s life is different, and what works for me may not work for you. In a strange way, I think it is more inclusive by offering suggestions of what you SHOULDN’T do as part of your morning routine. For example…